Even in the days of our grandmothers, everything in sexual life was unambiguous: before the wedding, no, no, no kissing without love, no holding hands in public. Not everyone followed these rules, but the general trend was clear. Now there are any scenarios for the development of events: from sex on the first date to intimacy only after the wedding. Nevertheless, the topic of sex is still not disclosed, for many it is generally a taboo, especially on a first date. However, there is another opinion. According to relationship coach Rachel Wright, intimacy on a first date helps a future couple understand how compatible they are.
“Sex on the first date can be rewarding if both of you want to have it. Here’s the deal: no "right time" for sex… Concepts "don’t give away your milk for free" and "He won’t like me anymore if I give up too soon" obsolete,” Wright said.
In her opinion, you should not be led by old-fashioned ideas about what you can and cannot do at the beginning of a relationship, as this only causes unnecessary shame. The main thing in this matter is to be honest with yourself and discuss your expectations in advance with the person you will meet for the first time.
In general, there were even studies where almost half of the respondents (49%) admitted that they had sex on the first date. The rest of the survey participants said that they did not do this because they believe that it is necessary to establish an emotional connection before intimacy.
Wright is sure that just the same sex allows you to determine the compatibility of the temperaments of partners and their interest in continuing the relationship. In addition, according to Wright’s experience, many women prefer to quickly sleep with a chosen one so that their partner immediately knows all their preferences. So they try to save themselves from disappointment: after all, if there is no emotional involvement, failures are perceived more easily.
And finally, Wright added, intimacy on a first date is a great way to not only connect with a partner, but also just calm your nerves and relieve tension. After all, sex, if skillfully, is an excellent antidepressant.
Previously, psychologist Anna Steph advised people to sleep separately for the sake of good sex. According to her, this practice will bring more benefits and have a positive impact, including on intimate life.
