For some reason, even seemingly brave people sometimes cannot refuse in response to some request. They realize they don’t want to or can’t help the person asking, but they still don’t say no. Popular psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky explained that low self-esteem is behind the inability to refuse. Many people think that rejection is a reason to be offended by them and stop communicating.
The habit of agreeing with everyone in everything may appear due to the fact that a person simply does not want to take responsibility for his own choice. He also does not understand his needs, cannot prioritize, is afraid of not meeting the expectations of other people. Allegedly, if he said “no” in response to a request, this offends the one asking.
“Any person who offers something to you should be ready to accept your refusal. And if he cannot do this, is offended or reacts aggressively, remember: this is not your problem, ”Labkovsky emphasized.
According to him, he himself used to be afraid that they would stop communicating with him if he put his interests in priority. But increasing self-esteem allows you to get rid of fear. Read more about how to change the relationship with yourself, we talked here.
Earlier, clinical psychologist Denis Dolgov named other signs by which one can determine one’s low self-esteem.
