And the problem here is not at all that their mothers somehow raised them in a wrong way. Just for the formation of a male personality type, both parents are needed, otherwise there is a bias or isolation from reality. Therefore, the expert explained how you can try to neutralize the influence from only one side and competently raise a child without a father.
Psychologist Valery But explained to the journalist of the Doctor Peter publication that, according to statistics, such men are less happy in life than children from a complete family. This applies to both professional and personal life.
Why not leave a child without a father?
Feminine and masculine nature are quite different and have different guidelines. Therefore, the boy, not seeing an example before his eyes, will not be able to deal with his masculinity and the concept of responsibility.
How does this upbringing affect the individual?
If the mother is too protective of the child, then he will not learn to make decisions. And if he behaves strictly and too harshly, then the boy can become embittered and acquire psychosexual complexes. Constant swearing at the absent father and all other men will also lead to a clear result – the child can adopt distrust and hatred of men. Such children often do not realize what position they occupy in society, do not quite understand how to communicate with other men, and because of this uncertainty, they often surround themselves with women.
How does growing up without a father affect your career?
Psychologist Gut explained that if a boy does not see an example of male responsibility in front of him, then in the end he can turn out to be a lazy employee. Moreover, in any case, mothers are not enough here – if she often gives up or does not know how to solve problems, then in the end a man can choose a simple and low-paid job. And if a mother plows like an ox, then in the end a man may simply not learn how to make decisions and cope with difficulties, and will also be very dependent on someone else’s opinion.
What happens to men who grew up without a father in their personal lives?
The result of a relationship for such men is always the same – they choose not so much a partner and wife as their mother and commander. They expect a life of comfort and coziness, but they are only rarely happy, because their masculinity is relegated to another plane.
What should mothers do who are raising a son without a father?
It is necessary to create a good image of the father in the child so that he does not have complexes, after all, the boy is half of the dad. It is worth showing a respectful attitude towards men, and if there is no good example in the life of a child, then find it in an uncle, grandfather, teacher, coach or someone else. Mom should always remain feminine and turn to her son for solving male issues. And you need to respect his independence.
But it should be understood that even in an incomplete family, a boy can easily grow up as a worthy and successful person, because sometimes having a father is not always a plus. This can be told by a fourth-grader from St. Petersburg, who was sent by a drunk dad to get a car from his ex-wife. He said: drive home, what are you, not a man, or something. Well, passers-by found the kid in time and helped with the car.